by Stephen Atcheler
Table of Contents
- They won’t discuss the future
- They’re struggling to maintain a circle of friends
- They are hiding your relationship
- They don’t provide emotional support
- They don’t share information with you
- They’re frequently unavailable
They won’t discuss the future
Up to 65% of Americans believe living together before marriage will enhance the relationship’s prospects. Is your partner avoiding the topic of marriage or even cohabitation?
Your partner might not see you as part of their life long-term if they don’t express an interest in discussing future plans together. This might manifest in defensive behavior during talks about your future or completely changing the subject.
They’re struggling to maintain a circle of friends
There is a very real connection between friendships and romantic relationships. Recent research suggests that as much as 70% of romances start as friendships. Just 18% of those surveyed admitted they intentionally became friends with their current significant other because they were attracted to them.
Not having a relationship start as a friendship isn’t the end of the world. However, a partner who generally can’t maintain friendships or keeps changing jobs might be unable to commit to a relationship, at least at this point in their life. It’s too early for them to settle down, or they are too busy to give you their full focus.
They are hiding your relationship
Hiding relationships is a typical sign of low commitment, and infidelity could be the reason. Half of nearly 1,400 Tinder users in a recent survey said they weren’t interested in actually getting dates. More than 60% were already in relationships. 13% admitted they were looking for a casual relationship, compared to 40% seeking a long-term partner.
They don’t provide emotional support
Emotional support is a precious asset, with just under 78% of adults usually or always receiving the emotional and social support they need, according to a survey by the CDC. In an ideal relationship, partners can always trust each other to stand by them through the inevitable obstacles life throws their way. Your partner should be interested in your well-being and help you overcome any struggles you have to endure.
How do they act during trying periods? If they are unconcerned, indifferent, or outright disappear, it tends to show how little they have invested in the relationship.
They don’t share information with you
Your partner prioritizes their plans over mutual ones or makes crucial decisions without you. They probably aren’t ready to share their life with you in a healthy and committed way. Someone who actively avoids being transparent with their partner keeps the relationship from deepening and lasting.
Specifically, refusing to share passwords or finances puts you in the minority. 81% of US adults admit they share passwords with their partner. However, American partners share financial information the most often. 95% of respondents in a recent poll said they shared information about their salaries, debt, and related details.
They’re frequently unavailable
We’re consistently available to people we like and care about. If your partner often declines your invitations, including by suddenly getting sick or other lame excuses, it could be a red flag. Someone who cancels plans with you at the last minute on multiple occasions probably isn’t fully committed.
Recap
- They often turn you down when you suggest doing something
- They get defensive when you talk about your future together
- They can’t maintain friendships or keep changing jobs
- They are hiding your relationship, perhaps because they’re cheating
- They are unconcerned or indifferent when you’re going through tough times
- They hide things or don’t share important information with you